Category Archives: Body Image

My Acne Story


Acne is a sensitive subject for me. It has been a significant source of my insecurity for a very long time. Even now that I am older and my acne is [usually] under control, I still become very self-conscious about my “bad skin days.” For the past couple of years or so, I have been able to find great comfort in hearing about other people’s experiences and struggles with dealing with acne. I thought I’d share my acne story too. 🙂

Yay, Puberty…
I started getting my first pimples in the fifth grade. It didn’t even start to bother me until some of my classmates asked me about it — “What’s that on your forehead?” Ah, the catalyst for years of self-consciousness. My skin started becoming oily, and I developed blackheads on my nose. I started washing my face every day, but when that didn’t seem to be enough, I turned to makeup. I used my mother’s foundation almost every morning to conceal every blemish as best I could.

Middle School & High School
The severity of my acne peaked through middle school and high school. I would describe it as moderate acne. It seemed like when one pimple healed, a few more popped up the next day. And I was a such a “picker.” I remember crying about it sometimes. Before bed, I’d go into the bathroom to brush my teeth, but I wouldn’t turn on the lights because I couldn’t stand seeing my own reflection in the mirror. My doctor prescribed a topical antibiotic. I didn’t notice much of a difference in my skin (except increased irritation) so I was finally referred to my first dermatologist. I was on an oral antibiotic for a little while, but a prescription topical retinoid seemed to provide the most improvement, at least for a few years.

Once my skin seemed to be under control for the most part, I eventually stopped the prescription retinoid and just used over-the-counter products for a while. At this point, I was better about cleansing and treating my skin consistently. I was on the ProActiv system for a year or two, but found drugstore brands to be just as good and cost-effective. When I was diagnosed with depression a couple of years into college, all of the emotional stress began manifesting itself physically, and my acne seemed to come back in full force again (which didn’t make dealing with depression any easier of course…). Eventually, I was back at the dermatologist’s office, this time for a combination of topical antibiotics and benzoyl peroxide. My skin got a little bit worse before I started noticing an improvement again.

Post-College & Present
I sort of came across the most effective remedy [for me] by accident when I was prescribed birth control pills for the first time. The unexpected side effect of clear skin seemed to indicate that most of my acne was actually hormonal. For the first time since I hit puberty, my skin was actually pimple-free.


Of course, this is not to say that what has worked for me will work for everybody. There is no one-size-fits-all remedy for acne-sufferers. Many people have even been able to find great improvements with a more natural, drug-free approach. It took me many years to figure out how to control my acne. I’ve stuck with a consistent skin care regimen, making sure to cleanse and moisturize daily, as well as apply adequate sun protection. Over time, you start to learn what your skin needs to look and feel its best. I only wish that during that period of trial-and-error, I was better equipped to deal with the emotional issues that came with having acne.

My skin is far from perfect, and I still get breakouts (especially during that time of the month), but instead of longing for “perfection,” I’ve learned to make more of an effort to just take better care of my body and become more comfortable in my own bare skin. My skin is much healthier now than it was years ago, but I’m still working on building my self-esteem back up.

I’ve had people make rude and judgmental comments about my pimples before, and that always fueled the fire of insecurity in me. I’ve never had anyone sit down and tell me that my acne didn’t make me hideous or unattractive. I think having acne held me back from being more comfortable in social situations. If I was having a conversation with someone, I’d always assume that they were looking at my zits, and not at me.

So I’m here to tell you now that acne doesn’t make you ugly, or unclean, or stupid, or unworthy. It may take some time to find what works best for you, but in the mean time, understand that your acne doesn’t define you or lower your value as a person. I know that sometimes it can feel like people are looking at you with a magnifying glass when you’ve got angry blemishes on your face, but nobody’s going to bed at night wondering why you had those big zits on your chin.

How have you dealt with the physical and emotional issues of acne? I’d love to know your story too. 🙂

Mindful Monday | “Real Women”


“Real women have curves” has been such a popular body-positive mantra for a long time now. I’m all for fighting body-shaming and fat-shaming, and helping women feel beautiful in their own skin, but my problem with that saying is that while it specifically empowers women of bigger sizes and shapes, it alienates all other women on the opposite end of the size spectrum. It’s as if to say that all women who don’t have curves aren’t “real women” at all, simply because of the way their bodies look. Not very “body-positive,” is it?

I’ve never been big, or curvy, or voluptuous. And I probably never, ever will be. There are times where I thought my femininity was somehow diminished by my size… that I looked too “boyish,” or bony, or skinny. Men want “real women” with curves, right? I’ve received my fair share of “body-policing” from people with boundary issues, thinking they have the right and obligation to comment on the way my body looks. “You should eat more.” “You don’t have a butt.” “You have no boobs.” “You’d be perfect if you gained just a little more weight.”

Instead of pinning certain body types as “good” and others as “bad,” I think it would be better to encourage people to be accepting of all shapes and sizes and seeing all women as real people.

Have you ever struggled with fat-shaming or skinny-shaming? What do you do to make yourself feel good about your body the way it is?

Mindful Monday | Beautiful Things


A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of finally watching The Secret Life of Walter Mitty (which I do highly recommend). The above quote is a line from the movie that really resonated with me. To give you a bit more context: In the movie, (don’t worry, no spoilers) Sean Penn’s character, Sean O’Connell, is attempting to photograph a rarely-seen snow leopard… “They call the snow leopard the ‘ghost cat.’ Never lets itself be seen. Beautiful things don’t ask for attention.”

My initial thought of that line was that humility and modesty are beautiful characteristics, and that there’s something inherently intriguing about a little bit of mystery.

My other thought was that there’s great beauty to be found in hidden or overlooked places, whether it’s within the depths of the remote wilderness, or behind the plain, dusty cover of an enthralling storybook.

I think our idea of beauty has become extremely carefully commercialized. We often think of beauty as being very scarce, or even unattainable… that it’s something we all want, but only a few ever truly have or are. We also think of beauty as being very apparent… bright, shiny, expensive, colorful, dazzling, loud. But broadening our perception of what is beautiful can help open us up to finding the unappreciated, un-talked-about, un-photographed, un-hyped beauty all around us, whether it’s in things we see on a daily basis, places we visit, or the people we meet. Not all of those things demand our attention, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t beauty among them.

What do you think about how we see beauty today? What are some beautiful things you notice around you that others don’t?

Mindful Monday | Comparison


I compare myself to others more often than I’d care to admit, whether it’s in appearance, intelligence level, socioeconomic status, etc. I think that being in this day in age of social media, it’s much easier to compare ourselves to others. We don’t even have to regularly (or ever!) physically encounter the people we compare ourselves to. Facebook, especially, is a treasure trove of idealized versions of people all over the world. It becomes easy to lose sight of the goodness we have in our own lives when we are constantly bombarded with carefully-manicured status updates and photographs.

I think it’s important to take some time once in a while to step back from the rose-colored lenses of social media. If we keep comparing ourselves to others and believing that we aren’t as attractive, or as happy, or as smart, or as accomplished, or as popular, we start to forget our own good, unique qualities; becoming “what I think the world wants” starts to overshadow “what I want.” I want to worry less about being “as good as” or “just like” other people, and focus more on trying to be the best version of myself instead.

Do you ever compare yourself to others? How do you pull yourself out of that negative mindset?